{Your beliefs} May Be Keeping You From What’s Rightfully Yours.

{Your beliefs} May Be Keeping You From What’s Rightfully Yours.

 When I was little I wanted to be a writer. I wrote many short stories about my day some of it real most of it made up. I loved it! I would share my stories with Mama, Aunts and cousins.

 “Beliefs are choices. First you choose your beliefs. Then your beliefs affect your choices.” ― Roy T. Bennett

 Then one day a cousin came to me and said that she wanted to be my editor, but instead of proof reading the story, she said hey y’all (calling our other cousins) Ericka’s got another story let me read to ya!

I thought nothing of this, as far as I knew everyone loved my stories; at least that’s what they told me. Anyway, she started reading the story out loud everything was going fine until she said wait a minute let me read it exactly how she wrote it.

 “People are not stupid. They believe things for reasons. The last way for skeptics to get the attention of bright, curious, intelligent people is to belittle or condescend or to show arrogance toward their beliefs.” ― Carl Sagan

 Left out words, misspelled words and no punctuation. The whole story was on big run on sentence.  So, everyone laughed, called me dumb, stupid and said that I would never be a writer; because to be a writer you have to actually know English and how to use it. Yeah! That last one got me, it really hurt my feelings. No one had ever told me that I couldn’t be a writer before that day and so many people at one time. Wow! I stopped writing stories after that and what I did write I made sure no one else saw it.

 “Your beliefs affect your choices. Your choices shape your actions. Your actions determine your results. The future you create depends upon the choices you make and the actions you take today.” ― Roy T. Bennett

 Okay, yeah they got me. Little kids can be mean but, you know what I’m older, taller and I have a lot more belief in my own abilities not just as a writer, but whatever I put my mind to. As it turns out, in high school I was tested for dyslexia and guess what, I got it. Dyslexia is not an excuse for me. Hey, sometimes I’m still scared that someone will laugh at my broken English, but I want to put my work out there for the world to see, so that it knows and remembers that I was here.

“If you want to discover the true character of a person, you have only to observe what they are passionate about.” ― Shannon L. Alder


#It’s Our Beliefs That Will Hold Us Back Or Push Us Forward:

When we believe that we can do something, then guess what we can. Most of the time it’s ourselves and our own limiting beliefs that’s stopping us from going through with what we really want from our lives.

Our subconscious takes in all that our 5 senses gives it and when we ask our self a question like “What are 5 things that I’m grateful for today?” We will get an answer for that question. The same works for negative questions also. So good or bad it’s our beliefs that will help us get what we want or not.

“If you don’t change your beliefs, your life will be like this forever. Is that good news?” ― W. Somerset Maugham


 #Know And Change Your Limiting Beliefs:

To change unwanted habits or low self-esteem, to change lifestyle, to take responsibility for one’s own health or to reduce stress responses, will probably need some sort of belief change, because what we believe creates the reality we experience.

To change limiting beliefs which are deep seated, we are generally dealing with an area of great significance and meaning, and thus can be both fearful and wondrous at the same time. – Penny Parks

I told you that my feeling got hurt when I was laughed at. I stopped writing after that, because I believed what they said. When I got older I found out about meditation, awareness, prospective and being an observer.

“How you look at it is pretty much how you’ll see it”
Rasheed Ogunlaru

Now that I know how to use these things to my advantage, my beliefs in my own abilities has grown.

I meditate to calm down, you can get a lot more done when you’re calm. I am aware of my surroundings and with whom I surround myself with, we are the average of the 5 people we’re around the most.

I’ve also noticed that when people talk to me, sometimes their projecting themselves into my life and that can be good or bad, right or wrong, nosey or that’s just how they convey their prospective and it doesn’t mean that I have to take their word as gospel. By being an observer we can learn a lot about people and ourselves. People will tell you anything when you just listen or just ignore you altogether, because you’re quite. Either way you learn by being quite, watching and listening.

Social Experiment:

Take a look at something that you were told when you were younger. Now that you’re older, do you still believe this to be true? Is it working for you or are you using this as an excuse to hold yourself back from what you want? If this is holding you back and now you know about it, what are you gonna do about it? Write out the answers to each of these questions. Then read them back to yourself out loud. Take notice of  how you feel and the tone of your voice when you read what you wrote.


Do the social experiment. Then in the comments tell us what you were told when you were younger. Next if you enjoyed this article sign up for the newsletter and also receive a free e-book on Mindful Meditation.

Author: Ericka Bates

Hello! I'm Ericka Bates. I am a wife and mother of 2. Totally nosey with the ability to read. Therefore a great researcher. Things I like to look into autism treatments, health, meditation, and personal development. In much of my findings with autism, stress came up a lot. Stress turned out to be the cause for most health problems. Know what can defeat stress? Meditation! Meditation is not only a great way to get rid of stress, but it's also used to reduce anxiety, depression, anger, lower blood pressure and increase your creativity. There are many forms of meditation and right now I am actively practicing 4. I sit quietly and watch my breath. At first this was hard. My mind kept wondering, I was sitting in thought. Now my mind still wonders some, but I think that I'm getting the hang of it. Hey, practice makes perfect right. Walking is my favorite form of meditation. I listen to a podcast while walking and when I'm done I feel relaxed. Gratefulness or Gratitude is another good one. When I get upset, I stop and think okay, what's five things that's good about this situation. This calms me down and makes me feel better. Like the saying goes happiness is a choice and I wanna be happy. Happiness just doesn't show up you have to produces that kind of energy for yourself. Visualization is the fourth form of meditation I practice. I have a vision board with pictures of the things I want and the things I want to do. The pictures are fun to find, cut out, arrange, pin up and their nice to look at every day. Because your only choosing the things you like and want to do makes this form of meditation a joy to have in your life. It wasn't hard making meditation a part of my every day life. Now I feel that meditation is the foundation to anyone's personal development. Hopefully you'll find a form or forms of meditation that's just right for you too.

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